Today, I felt compelled to draw from my “Healing with the Angels” oracle cards by Doreen Virtue, rather than from a more traditional Tarot deck. The first card that I drew was the card of “New Love” and I immediately sensed that I had to draw another card. The second card that I picked was the “Emerging” card. I am not sure who this message is for today, but I do feel that someone or even several really need to hear it. Recently, I have had many clients asking love-related questions. Maybe it is the new year or just something in the air, but it seems that so many are struggling in this department lately. I myself am far from exempt. These two cards advise that it is time to let down your boundaries and allow a new feeling of love into your heart. Please note that this does NOT necessarily mean a new PERSON, but rather allow YOURSELF a new way to feel and offer love. When we are dissatisfied with our current relationships or are suffering from a painful loss or broken heart, our first response is to become defensive and protective of our feelings and opinions. This may lead to blaming other people or to transferring our anger at our own decisions or our low opinions of ourselves onto others. This might make you feel better temporarily, but it is seldom helpful in the long run. I have come to believe that the painful feelings that I experience myself when I focus on the loss or failings of a relationship are only worsened when I blame it all on them. I think this is because these feelings are out of alignment with my higher self or who I really am. Attempting to “take back” the love that you felt for a person just hurts worse, because deep down I think we are all meant to give and receive as much love as we possibly can. Love feels so good because it is RIGHT. It CAN’T be wrong. Love is of the light and it just feels better. These cards advise that we all take time to meditate on feeling of love and let the joy that it brings emerge from your heart center. If you are desperately seeking love, then what you really need to do is GIVE it! As the law of attraction demonstrates, as you give love to others, you will attract people who give their love to you. When someone is fading from your life, mentally offer them love from your heart. If they love you in return, then the relationship might be renewed or evolve in some new way. If they do not, then allow them to go. Send them on their way in love and light, because if they do not respond to love then there is no love for you with them. And that’s okay. Painful, but okay. Ask yourself if far in the future you will look back and be proud of how you have behaved with others in your life or with those who left it. Will it feel better to remember that a relationship ended with hatred and unkind behavior on your part, or will it feel better to remember that you held your head high and ended it with love, wishing them well? As hard as that is to do, I have found that it is well worth working on. This is when you have to learn to love yourself. I know, everyone always says that and it sounds so canned, but everyone always says it because it is TRUE! If you hate yourself, then sadly you attract those who hate you too. Who wants that? Or deserves it for that matter? FEEL the love that you want to receive so deeply that LOVE has no choice but to come looking for you. When you really focus on the emotion of love and let it emerge, it is almost impossible to feel the anger, hurt or heartache of that which is NON-love. It gives relief and I believe it speeds up the healing process as well. May we all experience love in our current and new relationships, be it with a lover, family or friends. May we release the old relationships that no longer serve us with a sense of calm and peace. I wish you all many Blessings and send you love and light on your journeys! Ember
Rev. Kennedy Turner is the owner of The Cat's Meow, Tarot and Talismans, LLC in Louisville, Ky. She is a Psychic Medium, Professional Intuitive Tarot Card Reader, and Certified Healing Reiki Practitioner. She also designs and blesses jewelry for use as protective personal talismans and charms, tailored to meet your individual needs.